Sunday 30 December 2012

She has a name...and a ventilator....

After much controversy and wishy washiness she finally has a name...Mary Jane....she has been named after both of our mothers...a good old fashioned American name....it's easy to spell...easy to say...and both grandmas I think are pleased...Of course, after she gets her name..she decides to pull a fast one...the Dr. said she just became too exhausted yesterday and they had to put her on the vent...reports her settings continue to decrease and she will hopefully be off in a day or two...otherwise doing well...good feedings and good stool...after the initial freak out moment of being back on the vent i forgot to ask him about her weight...i bought some preemies outfits hoping that when I get there they will let her wear them...it looks like she might well be outgrown the preemie outfits before she is discharged...we will just wait and see...so, if anyone is headed to Eden...please check on our daughter...as I am unable to take our other two children to India (need notarized statement from ex....tried, but he refused)...I will be here for a little longer...trying to figure out a plan....my husband works crazy hours and they can't be home alone while he is at work...so...we wait...and pray...I was planning on leaving in about 2 weeks but now with the whole vent placement thing...I don't know...I've got arrangements for our other 2 for about 2-3 weeks when I am gone but that is it...so, it is all in the timing...if I could just clone myself...and be independently wealthy...as you all know...the sooner you go to india the sooner the hotel/dining/transportation bills accrue...it's a double edged sword, you know? You just feel like you are being pulled in all directions; it seems like no matter what decision I make, I will let somebody down...cloning is the only solution I can come up with....but, I just tell myself....it wasn't easy getting pregnant and it's not going to be easy coming home...oh Mary Jane...you are going to be a little pistol....you now have a name...you now have some clothes...so, just go ahead and breathe for mama, ok? 

10 comments:

  1. Lovely name! Hope she gets off the vent very soon. Best of luck to you and gene figuring out your travel! Thinking of you guys!

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  2. Classy name! She is going to be a classy lady!
    I hope you can work out your plan soon. However, don't feel too bad, at 30 week, all she does is sleeping. If she is intubated, you won't able to hold her even you are in India.
    Inmature lungs take time, sometimes...months before she can go off of the oxygen assistance.
    As long as she can tolerate her feeds and go full PO, it is just a question of time to outgrow apneas and inmatured lungs.
    In a month, she will start to be more awake and aware of her environment, a bit of mama's arms and encouragement will help her a lot! Therefore, don't rush, plan your trip, check your insurance company to see if you can add her as your dependant and claim some of the med expenses.
    Best of luck and I am sending you a lot of positive vibes!

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  3. Great name. We chose to name Cristina Lei, our daughter, after our two mothers as well. It was an easy decision when we found out it was a girl. And you are lucky the grandmas are still around to appreciate it (though we know they appreciate it from where they are). Good luck with all the details...from what you've shared you've got a fabulous attitude. Welcome to the world, officially by name, Mary Jane! Happy New Year!

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  4. Hope you get to India soon but don't rush as others say. I know what you mean re hotels and food, as Brits we have to stay for 4 months !!!! At least we don't have other kids-you have a lot of balancing acts to perform sounds like your doing so well though!! Keep going. Beautiful names! X x

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  5. Totally wish there was a cloning machine!! but in the meantime - just have faith that she is fine and her "guardians angels" over in India are watching out for her and making sure she is growing and getting stronger so that when you do get over there you won't have to stay for to long. Love the name Mary Jane - short, sweet and spunky - just perfect for your sweet little girl.

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  6. Lovely name! I've been thinking of you all and wondering about Miss Mary Jane. I know someone who may be headed back to Eden. I'll ask them to pop in and see your little one. Happy New Year to you all.

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  7. Thanks guys!! I needed a cheerleading session!! It feels good to know so many people are cheering Mary Jane on!! R & R- I would love it if you know someone that would check on her for us!! THANK YOU!! Please continue to keep us in your prayers!!

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  8. I'm sure everything will work out fine! Mama needs to breathe too you will be great!

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  9. That's a lot of balancing! Wishing you the best and hopes that Mary Jane gets off the vent soon.

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  10. Ahhhh beautiful name, lovey way to honor the grandma's, sending Mary Jane lots of positive vibes!

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